You may remember my post ‘2018: My Happiness Year‘ – it summed up in a nutshell or two why I’m determined for 2018 to be the year I allow myself happiness. Sounds like a small feat doesn’t it? Strangely enough though, us humans aren’t always the brightest when it comes to putting in the necessary steps to get to destination happy.
It can start with the smallest thing – something seemingly insignificant could kickstart the beginning of all that happiness stuff you’re after. Finally making the Dr’s appointment that you’ve been putting off; making certain to see that friend you’ve missed; starting that course; going for a run when you don’t really feel like it; getting an early night just because, or reading a book instead of Twitter scrolling for three hours.
Like I said; small steps, but a step in the right direction all the same – it’s all about getting the ball rolling, y’know?! So with that in mind, I thought I’d share with you what I’ve been doing this month to make sure I’m on the right track for being the happiest me yet!
It sounds barmy, but a little clearout can go a long way – not only is it great to gain some space back or be able to see your floor, but it’s good for the soul too. Constantly looking at that chair with all the clothes on it (we’ve all got one!) or knowing that you don’t wear half of what’s in your wardrobe will niggle at you till you have a crack at conquering it, so trust me – give it a whirl! I’ve already donated two bags of clothes & shoes to charity, with another on the go as we speak!
A little Hygge
I’ve also adopted a little Hygge into my life – hygge in essence is “the absence of anything annoying or emotionally overwhelming; taking pleasure from the presence of gentle, soothing things” (The Telegraph) – now I love me some cosy, and the Danes are all about that too! So I’ve got candles a-plenty, blankets perched gingerly at the end of the bed, and a little lamp that gives off a soft less-harsh light – there’s a little more to hygge than candles of course, but it’s all about the essence of minimalism & being cosy. Given that Denmark has been voted the happiest country in the world, we’d be silly not to follow their example!
Helpful happy books
I’ve gone all out on the book front this year, and I’m not sorry a jot! Chiefly I’ve been hunting down the books that want to help make me happy – I’ve done my research & have a patiently waiting pile of pages, brimming with happiness how-to and tips to aid me in my quest. The two I’m most excited to dive in to are ‘Happy‘ by Fearne Cotton & ‘The Self-Care Project’ by Jayne Hardie – the latter of which by the way, I’ve read just three chapters of so far, and it’s already the most relatable, comical and heart-warming read.
*shudders* You read that right folks – exercise. It’s a bit of a swear word to me, since I’ve never been especially good at keeping fit; but with a little inspo from my best pal Tiff (she just recently guest posted for me about how fitness has changed her life!) & a lot of encouragement from my super-fit boyfriend, I’ve been really trying to push myself to get physically fit. Unfortunately I’m not the most patient person and I expect results after doing 20 squats (ok I’m not that bad..), so it’ll be a while yet before I have my Monica Gellar arms and toned booty, but hey – it’s a work in progress. & I do feel better for being more active!
Eating a little better
I’ve been trying to eat more balanced in the last few weeks – I’m not cutting anything in particular out, I’m just making sure I eat three square meals a day, and trying to eat the healthier stuff that’s available to me. It’s a tough one, because I basically have no willpower when there’s a whacking great plateful of Party Rings sitting in front of me, but I’m definitely making a go of it – & believe what they say – you really do feel better in yourself for eating the healthier stuff!
Being open about my mental health
Aside from talking about it on here, I’ve always been very hush-hush about my mental health struggles – I’d never talk to anyone about it for fear of being judged/bitched about or not understood; I’m pretty happy to say I don’t care so much anymore. Suffering with depression & anxiety isn’t anything to be ashamed of, and I wouldn’t be any kind of an advocate for it if I remained ‘hush hush’. Besides, it’s not healthy pretending you’re not ok. I lost count of the amount of times I hid away because of a ‘migraine’ when in actual fact I was in a depression hole. Now I’m owning it, I feel 100% lighter in myself, and that’s magic.
My ‘happy playlist’
I’ll not lie to you – my ‘happy playlist’ currently consists solely of ‘The Greatest Showman’ soundtrack which is basically all you need to feel magic & foot-tappingly good. Seriously though, never underestimate the power of music – create yourself a playlist now, fill it with happy, uplifting, ‘YES I CAN’ tunes & swap it for that ‘p*ssed off’ playlist you’ve exhausted.
Oh it’s just me that’s got a playlist called ‘p*ssed off’? Right. Awkward.
Seeing my pals
I’ll not lie to you – & I’m not bragging – but I really do have some top buds. I’ve seen a lot more of them recently, and keep in touch as much as poss. I love them, & they’re good for me.
My ‘happiness bulb’
If this if the first you’re seeing of my ‘happiness bulb’, then you’re probably concluding that I’m crackers – but hold on! This is in fact just my take on those fancy memory jars you see on Pintrest; I had an ornamental bulb to hand & decided it’d do the trick! I fill it with memories & daily achievements (this is an old pic, it’s a lot fuller than this!) & it’s such a positive thing to visually see it growing – it encourages me to see the good in everyday. Come the end of this year, I’ll be able to hook all those happy pink post-its out & know that I had a cracking old time of it!
Living in the moment
Now I touched on this in my ‘Things I’m Leaving Behind in 2018 ‘ post, but I really want to live more ‘in the moment’ this year. In order to achieve that, I’ve made conscious efforts to take social media breaks/put my phone on silent – even leave my phone behind when I go out (I know!). There’s a quote that goes ‘wherever you are, be all there’ – I’m trying to drink in every moment and be more ‘with it’, y’know?
So there we go; just some of the things I’m putting in place to ensure I’m on the right track to achieve ‘happy’. I’m a big believer that if you take care of the little things, it’ll be easier to tackle the biggies. It’s like nurturing a plant – you can’t just sit there & watch it, hoping it’ll grow; you need to water that baby, prune it & take care of it – then it’ll grow.
What are you putting in place to make sure you’re the happiest you can be?! Are you as determined as me? Let me know in the comments below!
Big kisses as always,