Happy International Women’s Day!
I’ve actually been so overwhelmed by the amount of love women have shown each other today; my social media has been chock full of inspirational quotes, empowering messages and shout-outs, and although today is technically International Women’s Day, I’m so happy to be living in a world where women are supporting & empowering each other more & more everyday. It’s freaking wonderful!
So I wanted to grab today by the proverbials and share with you just five things that some frankly kick-ass women have taught me. I’m lucky and fortunate to have some real rockstars in my little circle, and there are women out there that are constantly inspiring me, achieving above & beyond, being courageous & brave, and standing tall like the Queens they are.
“It’s like that book, ‘We’re Going on a Bear Hunt’? You can’t go under it, you can’t go over it & you can’t go around it; you have to go through it”
My little sister said this to me a few years ago when I was going through a particularly rotten patch with my mental health; she’d seen me pretty low and although I’d tried to hide it from her, she was always so intuitive & picked up on things. She said this to me and it’s sort of stuck with me ever since. She was only 15 at the time, and to come out with something so spot on & wise, I was flummoxed! I’ve remembered it and recited it to myself when I needed help digging out of a spell, and it’s taught me that the only way out is through.
“Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first” – Carrie Bradshaw
You best believe I just quoted Sex & the City! I remember watching the series for the first time years ago & when Carrie said this, I swear it etched itself into my brain. It taught me simply that, to love others unconditionally, we must first be able to love ourselves unconditionally. It’s all about acceptance of who we are & loving ourselves the right way, so that we can teach others how to love us.
Self-care is not selfish.
I recently wrote a post discussing the kickass book that is The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy; at the core of this book is the mantra that self-care is a necessity; that we are entitled to it, that we can make ourselves a priority & that it is not selfish. I struggled for so many years with the idea that I wasn’t worthy of self-care, that it was selfish – I read this & felt entirely enlightened. I’ve been so much more mindful of my needs, I listen to my body & mind and I make steps to ensure I’m taking the best care of me that I can. Thanks again, Jayne.
It’s simple when you say it or when you write it down, but actually having courage is a little harder to muster. We’re not all as strong as we’d like to be sometimes, we get knocked down and we wonder how we’re ever going to get back up. The important thing is to remember that we’ve survived this far; that we’re stronger than we give ourselves credit & to remind ourselves that it’s ok to trip & fall – we might dirty our knees & graze our hands – but it’s digging deep and grabbing at even the smallest handful of courage that will help us rise again.
I’ve seen some incredible displays of strength from the women in my life, and I realise my own strength when I look back at where I’ve been and where I am now. They – and I – have taught myself to dig deep, be brave & remember who I am.
Live the life you want! It’s too short.
My Aunt is the most free-spirited person I know, and she loves life. It can be so easy for us to get caught up in the whirlwind, to moan and be agitated, to wish our weeks away, to wish Winter away, to stew in negativity. My Aunt has always been the biggest believer that life is what you make it, and the only person to stand in your way, is you. She teaches me day in and day out, that life is for the living and throws a ‘f*ck it’ at anything that doesn’t serve that. She reminds me to live and to surround myself with like minded folk. We all need someone like that.
It’s safe to say I love the women in my life. I’ve learnt so much, I’m still learning, and I hope I’m serving my fellow woman in some way too.
What have the women in your life taught you?
Big kisses always,