5 Things That Totally Kick-Ass Women Have Taught Me

Happy International Women’s Day!
I’ve actually been so overwhelmed by the amount of love women have shown each other today; my social media has been chock full of inspirational quotes, empowering messages and shout-outs, and although today is technically International Women’s Day, I’m so happy to be living in a world where women are supporting & empowering each other more & more everyday. It’s freaking wonderful! 

So I wanted to grab today by the proverbials and share with you just five things that some frankly kick-ass women have taught me. I’m lucky and fortunate to have some real rockstars in my little circle, and there are women out there that are constantly inspiring me, achieving above & beyond, being courageous & brave, and standing tall like the Queens they are.

“It’s like that book, ‘We’re Going on a Bear Hunt’? You can’t go under it, you can’t go over it & you can’t go around it; you have to go through it”

My little sister said this to me a few years ago when I was going through a particularly rotten patch with my mental health; she’d seen me pretty low and although I’d tried to hide it from her, she was always so intuitive & picked up on things. She said this to me and it’s sort of stuck with me ever since. She was only 15 at the time, and to come out with something so spot on & wise, I was flummoxed! I’ve remembered it and recited it to myself when I needed help digging out of a spell, and it’s taught me that the only way out is through.

“Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first” – Carrie Bradshaw

You best believe I just quoted Sex & the City! I remember watching the series for the first time years ago & when Carrie said this, I swear it etched itself into my brain. It taught me simply that, to love others unconditionally, we must first be able to love ourselves unconditionally. It’s all about acceptance of who we are & loving ourselves the right way, so that we can teach others how to love us.

Self-care is not selfish.

I recently wrote a post discussing the kickass book that is The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy; at the core of this book is the mantra that self-care is a necessity; that we are entitled to it, that we can make ourselves a priority & that it is not selfish. I struggled for so many years with the idea that I wasn’t worthy of self-care, that it was selfish – I read this & felt entirely enlightened. I’ve been so much more mindful of my needs, I listen to my body & mind and I make steps to ensure I’m taking the best care of me that I can. Thanks again, Jayne.

Have courage

It’s simple when you say it or when you write it down, but actually having courage is a little harder to muster. We’re not all as strong as we’d like to be sometimes, we get knocked down and we wonder how we’re ever going to get back up. The important thing is to remember that we’ve survived this far; that we’re stronger than we give ourselves credit & to remind ourselves that it’s ok to trip & fall – we might dirty our knees & graze our hands – but it’s digging deep and grabbing at even the smallest handful of courage that will help us rise again.

I’ve seen some incredible displays of strength from the women in my life, and I realise my own strength when I look back at where I’ve been and where I am now. They – and I – have taught myself to dig deep, be brave & remember who I am.

Live the life you want! It’s too short.

My Aunt is the most free-spirited person I know, and she loves life. It can be so easy for us to get caught up in the whirlwind, to moan and be agitated, to wish our weeks away, to wish Winter away, to stew in negativity. My Aunt has always been the biggest believer that life is what you make it, and the only person to stand in your way, is you. She teaches me day in and day out, that life is for the living and throws a ‘f*ck it’ at anything that doesn’t serve that. She reminds me to live and to surround myself with like minded folk. We all need someone like that.

It’s safe to say I love the women in my life. I’ve learnt so much, I’m still learning, and I hope I’m serving my fellow woman in some way too.

What have the women in your life taught you?

Big kisses always,



30 thoughts on “5 Things That Totally Kick-Ass Women Have Taught Me

  1. What an awesome post Katie!! It thrills me to read your posts and gain the insight that you have. I, too, have been astounded at the outpouring of sisterly love I have noticed today, and everyday. Since joining several women’s groups on social media, I have been amazed. Women have a tendency to be one extreme or the other, at least in my experience…Super sweet and full of love, or full of hatred and jealousy. It is a heart-warming thing to see the shows of love. Keep up the great word with your posts!!!

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    1. Aw thanks so much Sharon!! Yes I’ve gotta say I’ve found it so wonderful to see all the love shared amongst women today, really wonderful! But I totally agree, I’ve definitely seen the one extreme to another, it’s so sad how hateful/bitchy women can be to one another, but hopefully that’s all changing a little bit! Thanks for being so blinking lovely Sharon, Happy International Women’s Day to you! ❤ xx

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  2. My cousin once told me that if you want something you have to ask for it and that’s something that has always stuck with me. I’m quiet and shy in nature and I often have difficulties saying what I need. I think that as soon as I took her advice there wasn’t anything stopping me. Loved this post! x


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    1. Aw thanks so much sweet girl! Yes I’m ngl I was always very similar – I was shy for so many years & sort of folded in on myself – happily, I’m a lot better at saying what I need now, and I’m glad you are too! Great advice! ❤ xx


  3. Live the life you want!

    So true. It took me a long time to listen to that advice but once I took it I was the happiest I could possibly be!
    Love this blog. Will be sure to subscribe.

    The advice that I took most to heart was
    “Better to be happy and broke than rich and miserable”.

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    1. Thanks so much Tania! I LOVE the advice you were given – I’d so much rather be happy and broke! It makes you appreciate the little things more & the people around you doesn’t it?! ❤ xx


  4. So inspiring, I love that you shared all that with us! 😀 My favorite is that taking care of us is not selfish, it is necessary. In order to serve our community and be able to help someone we need to be able help ourselves first. Our health is important even for the people around us so it is never selfish to take care. ❤

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    1. Thank you so much! & I’m so happy you enjoyed this post!! It’s so true, we MUST take care of ourselves in order to be the best version of ourselves that we can be, it makes sense! ❤ xx


  5. Wow what a great and inspiring post! I loved the encouragement and support all around, it was a lovely thing to witness.
    Your Aunt is right, life is way too short. If there’s one thing I’ve learned the past year (losing my love and then our baby) it’s to live each day as if it’s your last. Thank you for such a positive and uplifting post xx

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    1. Aw thank you so much!! ❤ it's made my day to see that you felt lifted by this post, it kinda lifted me to write it! I'm so sorry you lost your love & your baby, what an awful thing to go through – I'm always if you need a friend, please know that. Life is short you're right, it's so precious ❤ xx

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  6. Superstar! You are definitely doing a great job at serving the women in your life because this post was so inspiring, motivating and really put a smile on my face! Thanks girl! Absolutely adore this post and agree with everything you’ve written. I love that bear hunt quote, and the Carrie Bradshaw one! Sex and the city ftw and it’s true, self care is not selfish! And we must always love ourselves first! Amazing post lovely :). X

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    1. You are such a bright light in my blogging world, it always make me smile to see you’ve commented! I’m so happy you enjoyed this post, it was one of my fave to write, I’m all about supporting my fellow woman, we rise by lifting others! Sex and the City is definitely one of my faves, felt a bit corny including a quote from it haha, but it works! Hope you’re well darling ❤ xxxxx


    1. Thank you so much Sisira, it means the world that this post inspired you somehow! I wish us girls believed in ourselves a little more, you’re right we need a touch more courage! Sending you love 💛💛


  7. Katie, I don’t know how I am just seeing your blog, forgive me! I love this post so much and oh my goodness, i have read The Bear Hunt so many times with kids at work over the years and I never thought to adapt it to life. Your sister is wonderful. That has just made me smile so big and I am going to think of it whenever i need a little help! ❤

    Lucy xx

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